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dancerjodi) wrote2005-11-11 08:29 am
dancerjodi) wrote2005-11-11 08:29 am
Ah
Its Friday finally. Its been a crazy week at work and there's been a lot of running around otherwise. I'm hoping today and tonight to take care of business, get back to a normal calm state, and get ready for the craziness that will be the next two weeks (planning a con table, Thanksgiving, the kitchen).
Sort of related, there have been times when annoying things in my life have just gotten too annoying. At those times despite some awkwardness, its been necessary to remove said awkward thing. Its nice to be reminded what a good decision that was sometimes.
Despite my best intentions to go to Exmortis tonight I don't think we'll make it. There are 500 other things that I'd like to (or should be) doing. Where has my club desire gone? I want to go dancing, but have no interest in clubbing (if that makes any sense)? I want to get dressed up but have increasing lack of interest in "the scene", such as it is in Boston.
Brian was on TV yesterday on the Today Show with the Donald (he was the Scout in the back on the Vader side of the lineup - you could see his bucketed face in a lot of the shots). Perhaps a video clip will follow later :)
In crafty news, I have all of the supplies collected for Gram's mini gazebo. I can't wait to get into it (with some assistance from Brian and his dremel) and see how it all comes out.
Sort of related, there have been times when annoying things in my life have just gotten too annoying. At those times despite some awkwardness, its been necessary to remove said awkward thing. Its nice to be reminded what a good decision that was sometimes.
Despite my best intentions to go to Exmortis tonight I don't think we'll make it. There are 500 other things that I'd like to (or should be) doing. Where has my club desire gone? I want to go dancing, but have no interest in clubbing (if that makes any sense)? I want to get dressed up but have increasing lack of interest in "the scene", such as it is in Boston.
Brian was on TV yesterday on the Today Show with the Donald (he was the Scout in the back on the Vader side of the lineup - you could see his bucketed face in a lot of the shots). Perhaps a video clip will follow later :)
In crafty news, I have all of the supplies collected for Gram's mini gazebo. I can't wait to get into it (with some assistance from Brian and his dremel) and see how it all comes out.
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I think this is a fabulous project. I know if one of my grand daughters did this for me, I would be all choked up. So very thoughtful of you!
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Happens around your age. It's called "growing up." (Sorry if that sounds patronizing, it's not meant to be. I just noticed a falling off of interest in such things when I and friends hit the mid-30s. We started turning inward instead of always referencing ourselves by externals, realized we actually couldn't do everything we were interested in, and started prioritizing. The things that seemed shallowly egotistical -- like "making the scene" -- stopped holding our interest and we traded our time for more deeply satisfying pursuits. Like relationships. OY!
No Clubbing?
The social routine, and it is a routine, just gets boring. Yes, I did say that, even I get bored. However I kept going out because not only was it my major source of exercising, but it kept me from going crazy from all the stresses at work. Plus, I still get a kick out of dressing up. I'll be 38 in two months, dressing up still hasn't gotten old for me yet.
What a lot of ElderGoths end up doing is spending more time online (CorpGoth list is just one example) or end up going to regional or national events two or three times a year rather than going out everyweekend. ProjectFest, Convergence, Whitby, WGT, the GothCruise, all of these involve people who have been around for a while, and I always meet some pretty fantastic people when I do get to attend one of these events. Right now, you have a lot of different interests that while they are goth compatable, are not necessarily part of the traditional social circle that we used to run in 5 years ago.
That said, I miss the routine greatly, mostly I work, and on my days off clean my apartment or do errands in my neck of the woods. We do have a club here, but it's a $23.00 cab fare one way to get to downtown, so I go maybe once a month. I've put on 20 pounds since I've been here 'cause I barely exercise. I've been reading your LJ, and I'm most impressed with anyone that takes a class or joins a gym and sticks with it. We have a gym here at my apartment complex, have I even set foot in it? Hell, no!
My time here in exile will hopefully end soon, and I'll be off to Montreal where yes, I will be hitting the clubs everyweekend, and be able to come to Boston once a month. I'm sure the desire to go out will return when there is a worthwhile reason to do so.
Re: No Clubbing?
I think the major thing is, my friends aren't going out to clubs anymore. Most of us are doing other things and would need to put those aside (or give up that one precious free night where we could just relax or spend time with our SO) to do it. I do love dancing and dressing up. Not being a drinker (so not having that motivation) and not having friends to catch up with at the club - it kind of deters my desire to go.
I'm not saying I'll never go, but my days of being at a club every other night or so are long gone :)
Re: No Clubbing?
When Derek stopped coming out, it made clubland a lot less fun for me. Xmortis gave us all a reason to dress up and go out, but when you have to choose from being in a club with strangers or spending time with friends and or loved ones, I know that most people would just rather stay home.
Of course, for my present situation, mostly I stay home if I am not at work, so I am having massive withdrawal symptoms. :)