"It's tough, but it's also part of life. Not everyone succeeds at everything they try to do. I never thought I'd "fail" at something so important to me, because I never had before. I often remind myself that my "failure," was only that I hadn't met my husband earlier in life - and how could that really be a failure when the other option was to not meet him at all?"
You hit the nail right on the head. It is harder for us to do this as we get older, but many people are waiting for various reasons. I'm not happy about the struggles we've had, but I wouldn't have wanted to give up the stuff I did earlier in life for it to be different. My husband didn't want kids for a very long time, but I'd rather be with him and with no kids than have had kids a long time ago.
There was a local author/comic artist that wrote a book "Good Eggs" I think was the title. She struggled for years and multiple IVF cycles, until they just stopped. She seemed to make peace with it and focused energies in other areas of her life. Of course the book was just a bit of distraction, but it was very spot on, and very laugh-out loud funny in parts. You may enjoy reading it (I was able to get it via our library network and it was a quick read).
Talking about it didn't change things for me, but it did make me feel a bit better about it. Ignoring the elephant in the room never works (I'm sorry your friends were excluding you from things to 'make it easy' on you. :/ )
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timeasmymeasure
Re: Yes, this is true too
Date: 2011-08-25 01:57 pm (UTC)You hit the nail right on the head. It is harder for us to do this as we get older, but many people are waiting for various reasons. I'm not happy about the struggles we've had, but I wouldn't have wanted to give up the stuff I did earlier in life for it to be different. My husband didn't want kids for a very long time, but I'd rather be with him and with no kids than have had kids a long time ago.
There was a local author/comic artist that wrote a book "Good Eggs" I think was the title. She struggled for years and multiple IVF cycles, until they just stopped. She seemed to make peace with it and focused energies in other areas of her life. Of course the book was just a bit of distraction, but it was very spot on, and very laugh-out loud funny in parts. You may enjoy reading it (I was able to get it via our library network and it was a quick read).
Talking about it didn't change things for me, but it did make me feel a bit better about it. Ignoring the elephant in the room never works (I'm sorry your friends were excluding you from things to 'make it easy' on you. :/ )