A Single Mom
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dancerjodiI know plenty of folks do this, but this is a new one for me. I was with Mina at home for 3 months while Brian was at work (he took 2 weeks off when she was born), but he was at least around. He is at a conference at the Venetian in Vegas until Saturday morning.
We dropped him at Logan last night around 6. We had an early dinner to make sure Mina was fed and not mess with her routine too much. I had this awful feeling in the pit of my stomache all day, mostly because I was worried about her. She is too young to really understand what's happening, and had no clue what was coming. She is such a daddy's girl. He gave her a kiss and hug goodbye in the carseat, hugged and kissed me and was off. She was OK last night with the bed routine. She asked about him a couple of times. I showed her some videos of him on my phone, including one he shot in the airport, saying goodnight to her.
She actually slept through the night, and woke up at 5. I changed her and brought her into my bed, and she asked where daddy was ('he is working'). She was good/normal for a bit. We watched some movies on her ipod for a bit before she wanted to get up. She did not want me to leave her sight, but somehow I managed to wash my face, brush my teeth (only because I made it a game and she brushed hers). I brought my makeup downstairs with the plan of putting on in the car or at work. She was so clingy: crying and asking for Brian and not wanting me to put her down. She'd have periods though, where she'd chase a cat or eat some food or play, before coming back to be held. Thankfully I had prepped the night before and had a big buffer to get ourselves together and out of the house.
We called Brian around 7 (4 AM his time, but he wants to have these daily calls) and did some Facetime with him. She was excited and laughed, and would wander off to play, but when I said I was going to hang up, she would come back and urge me not to. Somehow I actually did manage to put makeup on in our downstairs bathroom during one of her short happy moments. I got her coat, shoes and hat on, and got her into the truck (I'm driving Brian's during the week since it is much newer/more reliable).
Daycare dropoff can be tough for Brian sometimes. She is happy to be there, but wants him to stay. We used to feed her breakfast at home but there are some friends of hers that eat there, and so getting her to sit with them sometimes is a good distraction, so we moved to just a bit of fruit at home and most breakfast with the kids at daycare. Usually this distracts her, or her 'boyfriend' wanting to hug her. Or a visit to her favorite old teacher in the infant room. Today, thankfully, I was going into the center at the same time as the director who is well versed at the tactics of Mina distraction. I warned her about Brian being away and Mina being possibly needy. She still did not want to let go of me! Not for an applesauce pouch, not for a boyfriend hug. The director was able to sway her with a visit to the infant room, and I told her I loved her and booked it out of there.
I'm dropping her at the normalish time, so I'm getting to work a bit late. OK fine, I'm just cutting back my lunch time to make up for it. They are flexible. What a day to have to deal with some wet snow (and its resulting traffic), 2 outside meetings (one at each of our hospitals) and catchup from a long weekend away.
I'm fighting off a cold too. I'm keeping it at bay. I'm hoping I can continue to do that. But with the craziness of this week I'm not sure how that will go.
I'm trying to keep Mina's schedule as normal as possible, with things done in the normal way. But, I've arranged for visits from some of her favorite peeps. Tio Carlos is coming by tonight. Uncle Sean and Auntie Krista. My dad will visit Thursday morning before work and Friday morning (he is working in the area, and so carpooling with Mom). They are going to stay over for a visit/dinner Friday night. I'm hoping to set up a visit from her favorite babysitter friend Thursday, but I need to poke her.
It is a light week meeting-wise, which is good. If the cold takes over I can always drop her at daycare and stay home from work. We will all survive. Plenty of single parents do this all of the time. It is just a new routine.
I will be so happy to tell her on Saturday morning that we are going to pick up her daddy!
We dropped him at Logan last night around 6. We had an early dinner to make sure Mina was fed and not mess with her routine too much. I had this awful feeling in the pit of my stomache all day, mostly because I was worried about her. She is too young to really understand what's happening, and had no clue what was coming. She is such a daddy's girl. He gave her a kiss and hug goodbye in the carseat, hugged and kissed me and was off. She was OK last night with the bed routine. She asked about him a couple of times. I showed her some videos of him on my phone, including one he shot in the airport, saying goodnight to her.
She actually slept through the night, and woke up at 5. I changed her and brought her into my bed, and she asked where daddy was ('he is working'). She was good/normal for a bit. We watched some movies on her ipod for a bit before she wanted to get up. She did not want me to leave her sight, but somehow I managed to wash my face, brush my teeth (only because I made it a game and she brushed hers). I brought my makeup downstairs with the plan of putting on in the car or at work. She was so clingy: crying and asking for Brian and not wanting me to put her down. She'd have periods though, where she'd chase a cat or eat some food or play, before coming back to be held. Thankfully I had prepped the night before and had a big buffer to get ourselves together and out of the house.
We called Brian around 7 (4 AM his time, but he wants to have these daily calls) and did some Facetime with him. She was excited and laughed, and would wander off to play, but when I said I was going to hang up, she would come back and urge me not to. Somehow I actually did manage to put makeup on in our downstairs bathroom during one of her short happy moments. I got her coat, shoes and hat on, and got her into the truck (I'm driving Brian's during the week since it is much newer/more reliable).
Daycare dropoff can be tough for Brian sometimes. She is happy to be there, but wants him to stay. We used to feed her breakfast at home but there are some friends of hers that eat there, and so getting her to sit with them sometimes is a good distraction, so we moved to just a bit of fruit at home and most breakfast with the kids at daycare. Usually this distracts her, or her 'boyfriend' wanting to hug her. Or a visit to her favorite old teacher in the infant room. Today, thankfully, I was going into the center at the same time as the director who is well versed at the tactics of Mina distraction. I warned her about Brian being away and Mina being possibly needy. She still did not want to let go of me! Not for an applesauce pouch, not for a boyfriend hug. The director was able to sway her with a visit to the infant room, and I told her I loved her and booked it out of there.
I'm dropping her at the normalish time, so I'm getting to work a bit late. OK fine, I'm just cutting back my lunch time to make up for it. They are flexible. What a day to have to deal with some wet snow (and its resulting traffic), 2 outside meetings (one at each of our hospitals) and catchup from a long weekend away.
I'm fighting off a cold too. I'm keeping it at bay. I'm hoping I can continue to do that. But with the craziness of this week I'm not sure how that will go.
I'm trying to keep Mina's schedule as normal as possible, with things done in the normal way. But, I've arranged for visits from some of her favorite peeps. Tio Carlos is coming by tonight. Uncle Sean and Auntie Krista. My dad will visit Thursday morning before work and Friday morning (he is working in the area, and so carpooling with Mom). They are going to stay over for a visit/dinner Friday night. I'm hoping to set up a visit from her favorite babysitter friend Thursday, but I need to poke her.
It is a light week meeting-wise, which is good. If the cold takes over I can always drop her at daycare and stay home from work. We will all survive. Plenty of single parents do this all of the time. It is just a new routine.
I will be so happy to tell her on Saturday morning that we are going to pick up her daddy!
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Date: 2013-11-13 12:27 am (UTC)