Rituals

May. 31st, 2006 10:19 am
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Life without Max is so weird. You don't realize the work you do for somebody until they are gone since its so ingrained in your schedule.

For instance, my Dad dropped by last night to talk for a bit and brought me some flowers. I took them out of the wrapping and went to take out the baby's breath - oh wait, there is no cat anymore that I need to worry about eating them and poisoning himself. I took the baby's breath out anyway - I don't want it there. I slept an extra 15 minutes this morning and didn't need to feed Max, give him his shot, and clean up puked on blankets, peed on pee pads or anything like that. I almost actually forgot to feed the bunnies before I left the house since I'm really a creature of habit and one change kind of throws me off. This is going to take a lot of getting used to.

In a way though, Max's parting is going to help other animals in the way that an organ donor would. We went out to our vet yesterday to drop off unused insulin, needles and cat food. Vescone is going to keep the blanket we brought Max to them in and that he died in - the vet mentioned that it will come in very useful for snuggling other patients and keeping them warm. I put an add up on Craigslist for someone to take our pet steps and leftover pee pads. This is one of the responses that I got:

"Hello, I wrote to you last night from my home e-mail. I have
not heard back from you if you have given them away yet. My mother in law
REALLY needs these items. We always buy her the puppy pads and man they are
expensive. Also The she's been wanting the steps because with her arthritis
she cant pick up the dog anymore. Please let me know you would make an old
woman happy and easier. I can pick it all up. I live and work in Watertown
so it's not a problem. Just tell me where."

I just replied to her. It makes me feel better that the things we got to help Max out in his final months will go to help an older woman's life easier with her own pet. To connect to our cheezy vacation, its a small world after all (and all that).

Date: 2006-05-31 02:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] water-childe.livejournal.com
So sorry about Max. I know you'll never forget him, but I hope that in time the space he no longer occupies won't be so accutely noticable.

Date: 2006-05-31 02:39 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] alonewiththemoon
After Amelia passed away, I gave away her very expensive medications--it feels like a memorial in a way, to help others with their old things.

Date: 2006-05-31 04:01 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] goat.livejournal.com
I'm so sorry to hear of Max's passing. I am glad you're able to find some solace in helping others.

Date: 2006-05-31 04:03 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] gospog.livejournal.com
If it helps, we are going through the same thing. With Glung, it was peeing on everything. I'll find myself picking towels up off the floor and then realizing that there's no longer any need. Towels, clothes, papers, if it was on the floor, she'd pee on it.

Not anymore, of course, and sometimes it's really hard.

It only been weeks but it is getting a little easier. I can't ever see us forgetting, though.

Again, very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts are with you. (and Max is with Glung, wherever that may be)

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Date: 2006-05-31 06:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dancer.livejournal.com
"I'll find myself picking towels up off the floor and then realizing that there's no longer any need."

We had that issue with Max too. Its weird to not have to do those things that I used to think were kind of a pain in the butt. I miss them.

I'm glad we have other animals around to comfort us through all of this (and I'm sure that Huggy Bear and the new kitty are keeping you both quite busy). Our bunnies have definitely been getting a lot of attention from us since Max has been gone. If only they'd slow down enough to snuggle with us for more than a couple of minutes - but they are bunnies after all! :).

Date: 2006-05-31 05:04 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] dawntreader
i was so sorry to read your post about Max. maybe i'm reading too much into it, but it's almost like he waited for you to come home so he could say goodbye. anyway, 21 years is a good, long life for such a loved kitty and for that i'm happy. it only makes me sad that no amount of time is quite long enough.

take special care of yourself these next few weeks.

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