Shimmy shimmy

[dancerjodi]

The evening had an unexpected turn last night! After a day of errands and homework we got a call from a Fieryredhead asking if we wanted to join her and a group for her hubby's birthday at Karoun ( http://cuisinenet.com/info/?v=237&/Boston_Cambridge/rest/3207.shtml ). I thought it would be a good opportunity to check out Milena, a woman that I'll be calling next week about lessons: http://www.daughtersofrhea.com . We planned on going to birthday party #1, then heading to dinner and the performance and lastly heading to birthday party #2.

We met at 9:00 for dinner and the show started around 9:40 - Milena was amazing (I've never seen anyone bellydance with a platter covered with candles balanced on their head before). B had mentioned earlier in the evening that though he thinks bellydance is a sexy art form IN CONCEPT he had rarely seen someone he thought was sexy do it. He did enjoy the performance tonight (a serious understatement)!

The show was pretty long and it took forever to get the check (mmm, the food was SO good) so we got out of there around 11:00. We decided to forgo the journey to Somerville for birthday party #2 figuring that by the time we got there and found parking we wouldn't be able to spend much time socializing.

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Its been a weekend of different things and different cuisines and I've had a lot of fun; I kind of feel like I'm not in the 'real world' because B and I have been enjoying ourselves so much and haven't seen many people.

Perhaps its a good thing some times - we started staying in more due to our lack of enthusiasm with the drama which pervades our little social circle. Unfortunately it still shows up at times and makes me uneasy. How do you deal with it when you're around drama but it doesn't involve you directly? God this makes me think of high school. It makes me really sad . . .

Sometimes I wish I wasn't so damned emotional or empathetic :)

Comments

[nepenthedreams]

What works for me is completely ignoring all drama between people and pretending to be oblivious to it. Of course, I often *am* oblivious to it.

Heh

[dancer.livejournal.com]

That's really tough to do though, when it happens right in front of you :)

[ballerino.livejournal.com]

Yes, way too many manufactured dramas cluttering up the soup. Half the time I don't even know what they are, nor do I care, frankly. I am one of those who likes to hash things out and put them behind me quickly and move on.
Life is difficult and dramatic enough without creating more. It's why I rarely go out to shows or gatherings. Someone always hates someone else, and in place of reasons are rants and sensationalist gossip. It just leaves me with a sour taste, the way things linger and twist. Two times in the past months I have gone out and had a wonderful time, only to be informed in a rather public campaign that my presence had absolutely ruined the gathering by being there. I do try to ignore or laugh it off, but as everybody is quasi-related in these social circles, these words don't seem to die out as they should, and on more than one occasion a barely there or budding friendship has been cut off without a chance.

If you don't care, you are cold and heartless, and if you do care, then you inadvertantly become part of the drama's reaching tentacles. The word, however, is becoming too easy. It is getting so that you can't even express any strong emotion or opinion without being accused of drama.
Real drama is life, melodrama I can more than do without.
I can be sympathetic to many people without taking sides, and I can look right through those who try to start drama with me, but it doesn't always help. We just do our best, and try to stay as neutral as possible while still being a friend.

[bratling.livejournal.com]

How do you deal with it when you're around drama but it doesn't involve you directly?

sometimes i ignore it, sometimes i just enjoy the show (but someone must really piss me off to do this). i've mostly managed to cut out the psycho drama queens and kings from my life, but i agree, when you're on the periphiary, it's hard to cut those last bits.

otoh, one of the last situations is resolving itself nicely...

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[developer.livejournal.com]

What is hard is that one person's drama is another person's life. Some people seem to seek out difficult situations and exploit them. So people just FEEL something, and it's how they feel. It's hard for me to judge what is someone being a drama queen and what is just another life issue. It's harder yet for me to look at my own drama and make that judgement call.

Btw, I really enjoyed talking with you on sat!

Dood!

[dancer.livejournal.com]

"Btw, I really enjoyed talking with you on sat!"

Me too (glad you guys could make it and that B and I got back before K turned into a pumpkin) :)

And know I know all of the ins-and-outs of the Acton public school system - it just adds confusion to the 'where will we want to live someday and possibly have kids in the public schools' question.